Hi,

I was just wondering if you could give me some advice.

A few weeks ago i met a fella he is a realy nice guy but im after finding out he has a girlfreind with the past 3 years.  Eventhough i do realy like him i cant be the other girl.  I would be the one who would probably end up getting hurt as they never realy leave there girlfreinds.  So i decided to stop seeing him.

Im just wondering if you see any new boyfreind in my immediate future. I realy want to meet someone,i know im only young but i would hate to think i would never meet that someone special as getting married and having kids is the most important thing in the world to me.

I lost my dad a few years back and ever since i have been trying to fill that void i feel. I miss him so much every day and i just feel that if there was that someone special in my life I might not feel so lonely.

I would love some good news eithre in my love life or career wise.

Please help

Dear Reader

Good on you for having the strength of character not to be the 'other woman'. As you said, it would be you who gets hurt and it's extremely rare that they leave their girlfriend for the other woman. So pat yourself on the back! It takes a very strong person to be able to walk away in that situation! Remember, you can do better than to be with someone who obviously can't stay true to one person.

I do feel you are going to meet a man with whom you will have a wonderful relationship with in the next 5 months or so. I'm seeing them as being very witty, smart, older than you, creative, a bit of a temper, likes to travel, is very adaptable to change and can be a bit impatient at times. He's coming across as having smokey blue eyes and dark blonde or light brown/auburn hair. The hair colour isn't showing as clearly to me as his eyes are.

This relationship will blossom over time, so if it goes a bit too slowly for your liking, don't be concerned. It will bring balance, friendship and love into your life, however you really do need to be looking at your motives for entering a relationship, as the best relationships come to you when you are feeling complete inside.

I'm sorry to hear that your father has passed, however a boyfriend won't fill the gap he has left behind. Also know that your father is still around you, you can still talk to him, just because he has crossed over does not mean he's gone forever. You may find that visiting a good medium, in person, will help you with the grieving process.  The best way to find a good medium is to keep your eyes and ears open as word of mouth is the best measure of how good someone is. I feel this will be of more benefit to you than starting a new relationship with the intention of it filling a gap left by someone else. That is an impossible goal you are setting for your future partner and not fair to either of you. You both deserve better, and you will have it.

With regards to your career, have you been considering moving on or going for a promotion? As the cards here that I have drawn for you suggest that you will be heading into something new, moving away from things that haven't been working for you into a smoother and more enjoyable environment and will be a job you enjoy better. The cards are showing completion and a job offer coming your way. The strength card is also showing here which means that you have quite a strong career. If you don't have this already it will improve quite siginificantly in the next 6 months. There are signs of great unhappiness and you may feel sad that you are moving on or that things are changing, but know that the glass is half full, and things will improve for you.

Love
Diana